The Importance of Face Value

Hey all! In today's post, we're going to be discussing the importance of accepting someone by their face value and not trying to make them into something that their not. Let's get into it!

SHOTS BY PRIIINCESSS: 4- July's Gallery &emdash; #Shotsbypriiincesss-51The moment you stop looking at the facts, you begin to form relationships based on potential. In other words, what could be or the possibility. In essence, you almost start to try and change the person into who you imagine them to be instead of accepting who they are.

You can talk all day, but the fact is that people won't change or grow unless they decide to. For example, there are a couple of women and men that I went to school that was the best in the sports that they played. Everyone just knew they'd go to the Olympics or at least pro based on their potential. Where are they now?
Most of them have put on about a fifty to a hundred pounds, working in a plant or some other little job and they now have kids. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that either because it's not. However, I am saying that despite how good they were, maybe they did not see themselves like that.

Since this month is all about relationships, let's talk about that. I know it's trendy to date of man based off of his potential and stay with him through all the bullcrap. In the African American community, it is practically encouraged, especially if there is the possibility that he will come into some money or already has some. I know of countless women who went through that, and what do they have to show for it? Some kids and the fact that they got left when he 'made it.'

Tell me why in 2019 are people dating someone because of their perceived potential? Quite frankly, I feel as if we should take people for their face value for what they have shown you because actions speak a hell of a lot louder than words and they don't lie. I use to be the person that tried to make an excuse for every little thing someone did. Not anymore, though because I realized people treat you how you allow them to. No amount of arguing, sex or anything is going to change that.

Storytime:
I was in a relationship with this guy once, and we had just finished an event, and he was dropping me off at my apartment. I wanted to see where his head was at so I started to open the car door and then I closed it and just sat there waiting for him to come to open it and to see what he would do. He was pissed off, to say the least, and when he got around to the passenger side of the car and opened the door, he told me that people didn't do that where he was from so he'd never do it again. I looked at him and just nodded. At that moment, I told myself not to make an excuse for the behavior and accept it because I would never date him again.

He had the potential to be the perfect gentleman, but that's not who or what he wanted to be. So, the moral of the story is that when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time and act accordingly. I don't care what your mama or anyone else says don't date someone based on their potential and most importantly get your own money. Don't sit around and put your dreams on the back burner and hopes that someone else is going to blossom into their potential. Living like that will only hurt you.

That concludes today's post and I wanted to know have you ever been in a situation where you ignored someones true nature because of their perceived potential? If so, what made you finally accept who they really are/want to be? Be sure to sound off in the comment section. I look forward to chatting with you!




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